EVERYONE has both the ID (Lymbic system of the brain which controls the emotions & our pleasures) & the SUPEREGO (the frontal lobe part of the brain which controls the reasonable thoughts, morals & values). You do have a frontal lobe in your brain.....therefore you do have a SUPEREGO.....
The ID is NOT BAD.....the problem is that when the ID (the emotional mind....the Lymbic system, the pleasure center of the brain) is in control, it doesn't give the SUPEREGO a chance to act.....all the blood in the brain is going to the ID so the SUPEREGO doesn't have the blood to do the work it needs to do......so we need skills to SHUT UP the ID to give the SUPEREGO part of our brain a chance to function.
He's saying your partner is working in place of your own SUPEREGO part of your brain.....your partner is acting as your moral values & your reasonable mind rather than giving your own mind that chance to think & act.....it's there but your ID is overwhelming it & not giving your own SUPEREGO a chance to function.
The ID isn't bad.....having emotions is a good thing....is like being able to feel pain because it tells us when there is a problem that needs to be solved....unfortunately, if we give the ID control, it's the pleasure center of our brain & it can take over....that is the part of the brain where addictions come from.......so it can cause problems is we allow it to be the only part of our brain that is working.
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It's called ambivalence.* Everyone has a part of them that wants to do one thing (YOUR ID, your emotional mind) and another part that wants to do another [COLOR="rgb(139, 0, 0)"](YOUR SUPEREGO, your reasonable mind)[/COLOR].* It's the difference between the id, ego, and superego.* The girl two towns over is your id(YOUR ID, your emotional mind).* Partner, in the past and maybe at times now is acting as your superego(your reasonable mind which are your morals, & values & always a conflice between your ID emotional, pleasure center of your mind & your SUPEREGO which is your morals & values).* But your superego is the part of yourself that is your morals, values, and hopefully the future you.* The ego balances these twoThis is the EGO state where both your reasonable mind (SUPEREGO) & your emotional, pleasure mind (ID) combine to make sure that what you do is the best thing for you & is wise .* Your OCD is your neurosis between balancing these.
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