My husband had an affair with the girl he was in love with as a child. He said she was his best friend growing up. Now he wants his wife and the affair is over. She lives three hours away (and I just found out he went and visited her the other day but didn't tell me for fear I would freak out, which I did.) I gave him an ultimatum and said her or me. Am I out of line? He thinks this is unfair.