SpiritRunner, I'm so sorry about my post- I sincerely regret it. I don't know what got into me that day. stopdog is quite right that it is my problem and not yours and it's not for me to judge your relationship. I also should have taken into account what you had previously posted about your posts not being private, and repsected that this thraed was not about your relationship per se. I've asked to have my post deleted, but wanted also to apologise here.