It seems that your husband wants to have his cake and eat it too. To expect you to happily wave him off to spend time with the woman he had an affair with is just cruel. He is lucky that you have decided to move past his indiscretion. He still wants to continue his friendship with this woman, which for myself would set alarm bells ringing. You are allowed to ask that he breaks off communication, so don't let him make you feel bad or guilty about it. We here to support you big hugs