I expect the therapist to lead. The therapist is the one who should have a structure or game plan. Although the therapist does not know my specifics, they should know the sorts of things that a clent should be telling the therapist in order to achieve the results the client wants. If I knew it on my own, I would not need the therapist.
I am not there to just chat, and usually I do not have the urge to just start a conversation with the woman. I want to know what sorts of things do I need to be saying?