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Originally Posted by Girlio
My husband had an affair with the girl he was in love with as a child. He said she was his best friend growing up. Now he wants his wife and the affair is over. She lives three hours away (and I just found out he went and visited her the other day but didn't tell me for fear I would freak out, which I did.) I gave him an ultimatum and said her or me. Am I out of line? He thinks this is unfair.
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I would never give a guy an ultimatium. I would tell him that he needs to decide what he wants and ask him to please leave, or you leave, whichever works better for you for him to have time to think about it.
I wouldnt treat a man like a child because you will always be wondering. I would feel better if HE made the choice about what he wants. I dont want to make that "choice" for him.
I'm always ready to "lose" that person.
And no, youre not unfair. He is absolutely out of line to want this, and it tells me he's really not that committed to you.