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It was a horrible sight. His wife who had been caring for him said that she had no idea he was that bad till she saw him on the news. What?!? She's the one that feeds him all day long because he's unable to move.

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When I saw this show, I was so angry at that wife for not helping her husband get the help he needed earlier.

I thought that wife was like the enabler spouse in an alcoholic relationship. The spouse enables the addict and the disease of alcoholism to progress, sometimes pouring the drinks.

After the show I asked my husband how could that wife allow him to get so big. My husband made a very valid point . . . he said that you get used to looking at your loved one as big, and you don't notice another 100 pounds have been gained because they've already stopped being as active as they were once a person reaches a certain point.

My hubby has morbid obese family members. My hubby and I are overweight. This is really a big issue for me. I have enough intimacy issues because of past sexual assaults.

TMI Warning: I'm not able to overlook weight and still desire sexual intimacy. My cutoff point is 170 lbs. . . . which me and my hubby have exceeded. My hubby still is attracted to obese me . . . ick!

I don't want to reject my hubby. If I'm not having a panic attack, I have trouble saying no to sex. I always want to say no because we are fat.

I'm sure morbid obesity is a disease.

How does a spouse help their spouse get the help he/she needs?