Openeyes...(((hugs))) so sorry that you have experience of this

yes they do know, a few years ago I reported it to the police, because i wanted to protect my neice who, at the time was the same age i was when the abuse started and was regularly staying at mums house with him looking after her whilst mum was out playing darts, he was put on the sex offenders register but 'let off ' going to trial because he was ill and it was my word against his because those who could back me wouldn't jeopardise the shame it would bring on the family and feared splitting the family up. (they all live in a small town , only i moved 200 miles away aged 18 . I am sure mum in her own twisted way thinks he was let off because it didn't happen.

all I have ever wanted was for my mum to wake up and accept that the abuse happened, tell me she is sorry for not believing me and to give me a hug. a real heart felt hug.
I know this will never happen as, like you say, there is too much dysfunction and ignorance in my family. I often doubt I am actually related to my family as they are all very ignorant and only care about themselves, totally the opposite of me.