Drug addiction is never in the "want" column for me either but some people, and I believe my (now ex) fiancé is among them, use them (mostly just weed) regularly and remain productive members of society. His financial irresponsibility is connected more to his being too generous with his friends and buying too many rounds of drinks (it's a British thing) when he can't really afford it. He's not a heroin addict is what I'm saying.

That said he does party a LOT (well, because he's a promotor, he works in night clubs, it comes with the business) and so it's kind of his lifestyle. It doesn't have to be mine but it means our sleep schedules are entirely opposite and we only see each other for a couple of hours after he wakes up about noon and that's only because I don't have a day job at the moment (once I get one again we'd never see each other).

The man has many, many good qualities. He's not abusive to me, he treats me well, he's generous to a fault, he's jolly and almost always in a good mood. He's GOOD for me in many ways. He not only stuck by me but he took care of me when I was suicidal. His lifestyle however is not healthy for me and it's hard for me to fit having children into it at some point which really is something I want to do some day if I can.

Really, I've left sooooo many relationships because they weren't perfect. We went to couples counseling (with XT) to learn how to better understand and live with each other and it's been really good for me to do that. I've stuck with him longer than most people I date (2 years).

I'm not at all sure I should be walking away from this. So for now... yeah, it's just a time out. for the summer. To let me focus on getting better and to let him focus on his big project. Anything can happen during that time.