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Originally Posted by stopdog
Those of you who "take the lead" -how do you know the sorts of things to talk about that will help with why you see a therapist in the first place? If I knew what to say that would help, I could just tell it to my dogs or something and not need the therapist at all. Once I described why I was there, I had pretty much exhausted what I knew to say about it.
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Thanks for this question. I wonder, too - I'm constantly asking my T whether this or that thing I'm saying is really relevant or important, because I genuinely don't know. I left previous T partly because she let me talk about whatever I wanted to and I rarely knew if what I was saying had any relevance to what I was feeling, and usually it ended up in general chitchat about safe topics.
I do not quite agree with you on one point, though: even when I do know what I want to talk about, it does seem to be more helpful to talk to a real live T than to myself or the pets or a random brick wall. But that's me.