Therapy is a relationship. There is no "about"; it's present tense, hands-on. It took me nearly 5-6 years before I did not plan what to talk about each week and 7-8 years before I was able to respond to whatever came up, in real time.

It's our life, our "problems". Even if I knew your reasons for being in therapy I could not advise you on how you would learn or want to approach that problem in your life.

If a problem is concrete, we can list steps and go by the book but since most of us have problems like "anxiety" or "depression", no two of us experience them the same or come from the same background.

Basically, for your difficulty I would say "Take the lead about whatever you like". That causes you to figure out what you like (which no one else can do for you) and then bring it up and respond to another's comments about what you have to say and how you have to say it. They may, for example, tell you they feel they are being lectured. That can happen; we get on our favorite topic and happen to know a lot about it and we want to impart our knowledge. Or, as my therapist did, they may say, "Gee, your face really lights up about this topic, you really enjoy it".

What other people say to us is information about how they perceive us, how we look to another in the greater world. I think most therapists are trained to go after the "feeling" sense and I learned from that to also try to hone in on the feeling my therapist was expressing. For me, therapy was about learning to look where the therapist was pointing rather than at the end of her finger (as my cats do, look at my finger rather than where I'm pointing).