So my question is, I am going through therapy...as we all know. But my partner of 13 years wants me to get better faster. When she is around I feel like I need to suck it up, she always wants me to spend time with her, she is feeling lonely and ignored, i don't say she pretty enough or tell her she looks good. I don't initiate sex, and she never does so she is mad about that too, why would i want sex with someone who is unintentionally hurting me by not allowing me to care for me?...well **** when do I get to fix me? Am i being selfish? Will I heal better without her? I love her but she doesn't get it, nor does she want to....she is more concerned with how i have stopped catering to all her needs all the time. For 13 years i gave to her kids, grandkids, her syblings etc.... me nada. I gave myself substance abuse, to get through it all , no problem....til now. Ugggg

Anyone else have this experience?