As I get older, I have gotten to the point where I value myself enough to get rid of toxic people in my life. As a result, some long term friendships have withered. I also have relationships with family (my brother) where I have stopped trying to have a close, loving relationship because no matter what I did to foster this, I now know it is never going to happen. He will never call me (I always call him), he and his wife will never invite my kids and husband over their house (we always host all birthdays and holidays here); he always "sounds" good when I call him "You know I'm always there for you" but I know now the words are hollow. So, I enjoy his presence when he's here at my house, but I've accepted that the relationship will never go any further.

Do I regret the loss of these relationships? Just a little. I miss the people, yes, but not the constant angst they gave me. I now value myself and my mental well being enough that I cannot and will not allow them time in my life and heart any more. The smaller circle of people that now surround me love and respect me, and make me feel happy and cared for. I conside that a good trade.