Apteryx, my therapist is forever telling me, "It's more complicated that than," when I talk about something being all my fault. He says we are all capable of doing things that contribute to our problems, but it is rarely "all" someone's fault.

And if it is all your fault, then what? Does that mean you have to be unhappy or blame yourself forever? I have done A LOT of stuff that has and continues to screw up my life. I am trying to accept that I made mistakes and keep plugging along to try to make things better. It's that or keep lying in bed with the covers over my head. [I did that last evening and it wasn't particularly productive. ]