Hi all,

Quick back story. I have recently left the father of my second child (who is 6 months old). I also have a 4 yr old from a previous relationship. This was one of the hardest thing I have done, but made the choice to ensure a happy future for my kids.

My ex was very emotionally controlling and manipulative (even to my 4 yr old). Since we broke up he has been really trying to change, even seeing two councellors. He has been super nice and is trying really hard to have me back in his life but I am worried I might fall back into the same life.

He does not seem to be in any way empathetic and I guess Im worried he has an underlying undiagnosed mental illness. I myself have been diagnosed with bipolar but as my psych puts it I have been in remission for 4 years.

Dont really know what I'm getting at lol. But how can I tell if he really is in control of his actions. My mum is worried that he could do something "silly" that might indirectly put the kids in danger, but I just dont know what to do. I still really love him and when he is being nice he truely is amazing!

Hope someone understands mu gibberish and is able to offer some advice.