I think all forms of communication have their value and also their downside. For me, writing long tracts helps me 'see the forest through the trees.' I can explore, analyze, dig in and excavate and the very process of writing releases some insights that wouldn't be possible by just thinking about them. I share some of what I call my 'ponderings' in session but I do believe, for me, just sending them off to her would not have the same value as discussing them in session.

Texting has its value because it forces me to distill complex emotions into just a few words. This is a good discipline for me. It helps me focus and helps me more clearly communicate my feelings.

I will leave voicemails with T when the situation or emotion is too aroused or too complicated to condense into a short text. Even if i were allowed to send emails, T hearing my voice will convey the emotion better than the written word.

The rare times T and I have had a 'live' telephone conversation has been good but still a bit awkward. This is my least preferred way to communicate with her. I feel guilty about taking up her time and I feel more tongue tied. When she leaves me voice mails I can replay them as often as needed in order to really understand her message.

Even in session I don't 'hear' what she's saying many times and regularly I forget what she tells me.

But the body language I pick up on in session conveys much more than words. And the FEELING I leave session with is the most important.

I am glad I have these different ways of communicating with my therapist and equally glad I'm not allowed to email (for reasons given earlier)