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Originally Posted by Readytostop
Lola, yes once I started going to therapy it made me set boundaries that changed the "rules of the relationship" with my husband. It was getting uncomfortable in our home but I talked my H into going to see his own therapist and that really really helped. We are broke but much happier and we are both changing for the positive and we both see how we have sort of fed into each others problems.
We have kids and debt and a house and its not that easy to just go your separate ways. Since you are in a similar situation maybe you could consider this.
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I asked her to see someone, she said maybe ( she thinks i should suck it up and deal as she has)....im the one with the problem apparently. My growing up was , from a story perspective, worse then hers. She had an absent mother,every other weekend, lived with Dad and step mom/ kids, lotsa money. No physical, sexual, mental abuse.... ignored a bunch by dad apparently....so she is very needy and I have taken care of those needs, along with the kids and grands for 13 years but now i have to try to take care of me and i don't have enough time for all.