Yes i am the over achiever and she is the under....and all would be well if it remained that way. these are not new issues....i have always buried MY needs and feelings with Drugs and Alcohol, so as to attend to others. Its just not getting fixed as quick as she wants it to. i cant continue on the roller coaster, one day shes on board and then 2 days later, its all me again and im not fixing it....i mean seriously? I am also thousands of miles from any relatives, most of whom I hate anyway.. including Bio mom and Dad. Im all alone, if she leaves...but maybe thats a good thing