Lola, when I went through therapy in college, I did not have ANY of the same relationships at the end that I started with. Not ANY. This time around, my relationship with my husband really changed for the worse when I started therapy. Once I was not so depressed, I was unwilling to accept blame for everything that is wrong with our relationship.

My husband, like your wife, seems to think all the of the issues are MINE. His childhood was relatively okay, especially compared to mine, and therefore, he keeps insisting he doesn't need therapy. He is currently going because I told him his choices were to move out or start therapy, but he won't actually work on anything because he doesn't have any issues to work on.

I'm not sure what the answer is. You can only work on things at the speed you are able to. If you try to force things too fast (or as least if I try to force things), it can cause a complete meltdown. Big hugs to you. I hope she will give you the time and space you need.