I see positives and negatives to both scenarios as well, and like gretta would not choose to go back, but if i was in your shoes and going back, id be honest as lies tend to weigh heavily on me. But using fake therapy appointments could help get you some real alone time, if you can keep up with and handle the lies, but also if you think you could handle her reaction more than lies, often (but not always) honesty is the best possibly. Id say weigh out the possible stressors of each event and decide which you could handle more