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Originally Posted by Silent_tsol
It went along the lines of, "Fine then, you are booked for Thursday". From that short message I got "She is mad at me and doesn't want me to come every week. A few weeks ago, when I missed a week, she thought that was better. My problems should be fixed by now and she's frustrated that I keep coming back. I'm don't have issues that require weekly sessions and I'm asking too much."
I can't imagine telling her all that. We've never talked about anything between us the way some people say they discuss the T relationship. Maybe mine doesn't believe in such thing. Maybe were not supposed to have a relationship at all.
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That's a lot of thinking for your T. Did she say that she doesn't think you should come every weeK? Did she say she was mad? Did she say she is frustrated with you coming back? Thinking for other people is a cognitive distrortion that lots of people including me do.
One of the ways you can approach talking about the "relationship" is to start by saying that you realize that you "decide what she is thinking" or that you "interpret her thoughts from her tone of voice or word choices". This is a great topic and it would let you discuss your side of the "relationship' and get you both on the same page of how you are thinking.