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Jun 19, 2012, 05:39 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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I have some fears about this man too. There are some things that just cannot be fixed. For instance -- racism. I really don't see that being "fixed." That always seems to be deeply ingrained in someone when they are to totally bigoted, as you said your partner was.  My first husband way like that, and NOTHING could change him. Absolutely nothing. The same with homophobia -- good grief.  I could really tell you some stories on that!
Plus emotionally abusive people seem to take pleasure in attacking others too. My husband also did that, and sometimes it was "discreet" and other times is was totally overt. Counseling didn't help either. He just continued it, like it was a hobby or something.
Sure, my husband isn't your partner, but he sounds alot like him. All I'm saying, is I'd be very careful. If you want to stay with this man, be very very careful. Take a LONG time before you live together. Make SURE he has changed and IF he has changed. You could end up living a life of hell like I did. I didn't get out until many years later, and I SO regretted it. God bless,, and please take care. Hugs, Lee
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