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Originally Posted by farmergirl
I think we are probably all a bit guilty of sabatoging our progress at least once. Not knowing what specifically you are doing that you consider sabatoge, it is a bit hard to know how to reply.
My sabatoge has most consistently been through suicide attempts; that's pretty sabatoging I guess . But the therapy was vital in getting me through those impulses and finding ways to cope without completely imploding. My husband would directly sabatoge his own therapy by "forgetting" his appointments on a very regular basis. But T hung in there with him to get him past his anxieties and fears that were leading to his running from therapy, and it paid off. He now attends regularly.
Therapy can work to help you drop those kind of behaviors so you can move forward. If you drop the therapy, will you be able to drop the behaviors on your own? Do you really want to continue doing this? Things to think about.
One thing my husband and I both learned is that being open and honest with T about what was going on enabled him to teach us better coping strategies so we could let go of the sabatoging behaviors. Running away from facing this really will just serve to prolong and reinforce what you already know are behaviors that need to change.
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Farmgirl, thanks for your reply. Definately some things to think about.
I'm about to go on a liquor and drug bender. I already made a commitment to my sister. I don't want to have to choose between family and T.
My theory, if I'm not willing to help myself, I shouldn't be wasting my T's time.