Dear Bow I have to agree with Leed on this one. Have you discussed her living in the apt to take a little break to really be with herself alone to think about her actions? Lats say for 6 months. I dont really think she is as afraid as she claims. More comfortable than anything else. And i truly think she shouldnt be able to skate by with your friends family and community with this big secret of DV. She has to come clean with that publicly and in all honesty for this to really work. Please think about that dear Bow.
You are not the villian in this. If she keeps it a secret you will always be the "forgiven" and her the saint.
To me that isnt getting back to a good place. It is burying something.
Please continue to stand up for yourself Bow.
The most important thing is that you are safe and well. Keep it up xx