THIS is why it's so important to tell her. Usually the things that come up in the relationship with T....insecurities, worrying about what the other people is thinking, being afraid they're mad, etc - are things that we struggle with in our relationships outside of therapy too.

Most of the healing I did with T came through working things out in our relationship...because the issues I struggled with with him WERE issues I struggled with in "the real world". I am so much more comfortable with other people now that I've worked through that stuff with him.

It doesn't have to be about "the relationship"...it can be about "my insecurities"...which is what brings so many people to therapy in the first place