why throw good money after bad? what if this is the "bender" that gives you a stroke? WHAT KIND OF SISTER DO YOU HAVE??!! Why is she more important than you? if the money is already gone, then it's gone - you don't HAVE to have the hangover, too - what good would that do?

(full disclosure - I get such miserable hangovers and depression and do such idiotic things under the influence, like get married, that I do not have a drug and liquor problem. food and exercise, however, are issues for me.)

I totally get the self-sabotage. I just spent the last five years afraid to do anything because even if I thought I was doing something positive, it would turn negative, that's how sneaky a self-saboteur I am. this at least is fairly out in the open. I would say, keep going to T. some will ask you to stop abusing substances. mine asked me to stop seeing my family origin. for thirty years they asked me to stop seeing my family of origin. they were so right, I was so wrong. you're not choosing between T and family, you're choosing between YOURSELF and your family.