Quote:
Originally Posted by Rose Panachée
Ending with my T has been difficult. Something is going on in her personal life as well as the fact that she is moving to a new practice. I have been left to sort this out for myself. I dont want to text her or bother her because I get the feeling she is also having a hard time. We kind of set the stage to say farewell at our last two sessions so if we dont see each other again I will be ok with that. I know we wish eachother well. I feel like I am the grown up in all of this. Kind of unprofessional of her but I also know we are both doing our best. Thankfully at our last session when we were wrappping up the hour I thanked her so much and told her that i felt i was a better person for working with her. We gave each other a big hug.
I think if we are going to move on that was the best way we could have done it.
And I can talk about my feelings of continued abandonment and mistrust with my next T as this is an example.
|
More and more, I am thinking I have an issue with this. An issue I didnt even know existed. But looking back, yes indeedee this has happened to me numerous times and I guess I never really dealt with it.
I asked my T up front about termination. Only because I read here all the horror stories. The abandonment thing never entered my mind. But she mentioned it, that I was worried she would leave me. At that point I hadnt thought about it since I had no attraction/attachment to her at all. But I've remembered that I am a runner. When things go bad, I run. So now that she told me she has only terminated one person in 20 years (due to constant cancellations), I want to quit
her. And like some others have posted, how in thee hell can they say they will never leave when you dont know what the future holds? I think they just say that, perhaps with good intentions, only to know they may have to deal with that emotion in the future. Kind of like crossing that bridge when we get to it.