Ditto Leed -- it doesn't sound like this situation could ever get better. I'm sorry you're in it to begin with!! YOU should be in control of your own life, no matter who's involved in it. I've talked to people in similar circumstances before, and I realize it's a hard step to take, especially when kids are involved ... but it sounds like a necessary one.

Abuse is abuse. It doesn't have to be physical to have any kind of effect. I know it took me a long time to realize that.