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Originally Posted by tkdgirl
For the record my sister is awesome and is in no way forcing me into anything. She is the only person who is unconditionally supportive of me and would do anything for me. She took a lot of crap, so that I wouldn't have to. It's only right that I support her in however she wants to be supported now that she is struggling.
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The line "it's only right" really troubles me. No matter what, a healthy person has boundaries around what they are willing to do and what they are not willing to do. To be able to say to those we love, "I love you and I would do anything to help you, but I won't do THAT" is perfectly acceptable. And then there's the question of really whether joining in on a drug and alcohol binge is really supporting someone, as opposed to colluding in their self destruction.
I think that your distorted thinking about what love and support means is something you could fruitfully address in therapy. Maybe this binge is an opportunity to explore with your T about how you think about these things.