i'm sorry, but if you guys were fat, would you feel the same way about going on an eating binge with her?

The line "it's only right" really troubles me. No matter what, a healthy person has boundaries around what they are willing to do and what they are not willing to do. To be able to say to those we love, "I love you and I would do anything to help you, but I won't do THAT" is perfectly acceptable. And then there's the question of really whether joining in on a drug and alcohol binge is really supporting someone, as opposed to colluding in their self destruction.

I think that your distorted thinking about what love and support means is something you could fruitfully address in therapy. Maybe this binge is an opportunity to explore with your T about how you think about these things.

thanks lmtl. I really am sorry, tdkgirl. I didn't mean to insult your sister, I was just meant to ask why she wasn't more aware of how this would hurt you. also, I wonder if we are triggering people on the couch by talking about such things so freely, I am also guilty there. but I see from another thread title maybe someone has already brought that up?