Hi ((((Beau)))) In response to your question:
Does any one else find that their job gives them such strife and their triggers in the job ....
oh my gosh, yes! It became an issue for me starting about 6 months ago. I struggled with it, posted about it here and work on it (almost) every day.
Someone very high up in this company gave me a response that stuck in my head. He wasn't doing it to be a d***, either (he is my supervisor so...)
It's horrible but I repeat it to myself over and over when someone is bugging the holy **** out of me.
"It just doesn't matter"
And please don't misunderstand or misread what I have written: ((((Beau)))) YOU matter. YOUR feelings matter. You are validated and right in your feelings. And your pain is real and important.
However, when things get stupid around here, I just tell myself, "It just doesn't matter" and go about my business.
I KNOW that I am coming from a good place. And my heart is good and I am doing my best and my conscious is clear. So...
...they (all the dolts) can act like complete idiots day in and day out, and I tell myself "It just doesn't matter".
Now, not to say there are not some days that my (idiot) co-workers don't drive me insane, either. On those days, like last week, I come here and post and speak with my T. to find more tools to cope while I am trying to get to the bottom of things (my truth and why they bug me the way they do).
The bottom line, too, is that, in some ways, sadly, Anne is correct. It's not against the law to be an a-**** in the workplace. And you are going to be surrounded by them. With PTSD, things are magnified because we are hurting and we are sensitive to these jerks.
Legally, not much we can do about it...unless it becomes truly personal, and then my suggestion and advice is to:
Document, Document, Document.
I did/do both.
Hugs to you.
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