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Originally Posted by Rose76
I find it heart breaking, at times. I feel like I am being depleted by giving and not getting much back. A father is different, but not altogether. You are giving. He is not well enough to give much back. Hopefully, you felt well loved by him, at one time. Maybe, or maybe not. It can feel like the life is getting sucked out of you.
Also, when you are with someone needing caretaking, you can't socialize like you would if you were with someone well. I'm not great at socializing, but my opportunities are, also, reduced by my situation, as I believe yours are.
In any way that we can have meaningful contact with peers, we improve our lives. Caregiving is not reciprocal interaction.
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Yes, I always had a good relationship with my dad. Otherwise I don't think I could do this. But you are right Rose, it's not a reciprocal relationship when you are caretaking, but I know he is grateful for my help. Yes, it does cut down on socializing, and I feel guilty if I have to be away overnight. Altho my sis would help out & take care of him.