I hate to discuss this because it's apart of me I happen to be very ashamed of, but then again I've accepted it and moved on, so hopefully I'll be able to help you out a bit.

When I was 13/14 years old I was very abusive to whoever I lived with at the time. I was physically and emotionally abusive to my family members and that was a large part of why I was detained on and off through my life.

When I was 16, the county, had enough of my chronic offenses and decided to send me to a group home in Arizona for girls. It was a therapeutic type setting and I received all the help I needed there, when I left I was a grown woman and ready to live a productive life, and to respect all people. I actually did do that, I've never abused anybody ever again, I sometimes call my husband horrible names, but besides that, I've been very good.

I think if this is what you are experiencing with your children then you should talk to somebody and investigate your options. It's very difficult to go against your kid like this, but in the long run, after they are through with you and on their own with a spouse and children, it may transfer to them. I think the reason why they do this to the people they love is because they are overwhelmed with anger and frustration, plus the fact they want to rule their own court comes to play as well.

I really hope you find what you need and you get control of this situation. It's not only the best thing you can do for yourself, but for your kids as well.

Please keep in touch and let me know what happens.