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Originally Posted by ECHOES
It's hard, but this happens in life 
You will get on better footing, but it's important to stay with it and work through it and gain the useful knowledge that is there. It's important to look at the communication that took place: That you told her never mind, so she did. Then came the magical thinking that she 'should' know you didn't really mean what you said and that you needed something different. Another response to her could have been to say that telling her to forget it was not what you really want, you really do need to talk with her about what was going on.
It is one of those issues that is good to put yourself in the other person's shoes and imagine someone telling you to do one thing, but expecting you to read their mind and do something else. I feel frustrated when I think about it. |
Thanks for your thoughts. Part of me knows that you are right, and I do want to own my part in it and try to see it from her perspective. It's hard because to me, being wrong means not being loved. And what if the only reason I feel I need to admit blame is simply because I don't want her to be mad at me anymore?
It's actually really hard for me to put myself in her shoes because I don't think I've ever been in a situation where I "care" about someone and try to help them, but they don't believe I care and say my efforts aren't good enough. I usually bail if the relationship become the least bit unequal.