I'm curious at your statement that "everyone else has walked away." Does that indicate that no matter what this individual does to you, that you believe it's your job "not to be another one who walks away"? If that's the case, is it possible that you're into the Rescuer role instead of the partner/lover role? You call him your other half. I did not understand that you were married so I suppose it makes a difference, ie, "in sickness and in health." Now I understand why you'd put up with this.
Anne
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Originally Posted by BDPpartner
I currently trying to get him back to counselling  and trying to educate myself more about bpd, and it's scary because i've just read that threatening jail time is something that can happen. To the extent where a child with bpd may ring and report to the police etc that they are subjected to abuse just because they were sent to their room !  I'm guessing it's the extremes of bpd but my other half clearly at the time was at the extreme. And I'm well aware I'm making another excuse for his behaviour but everyone has walked away (run or pushed away) and i'm trying hard not to. But it's ultra hard especially when i'm on my knees crying my eyes out with him stomping round me raging, call me every name under the sun, making feel like a monster and then telling me i the cause of everything but i'm still fighting the fight or flight urge. |