My boyfriend is very overweight. I'm not really sexually attracted to him, but I still want to have sex. However, he says he doesn't have any stamina because of his weight, and I can believe that, but I also think it's depression because of his weight. I feel the same way about me.

Before I hit puberty, I could eat anything and not gain weight. Once I reached puberty, the weight started coming on. When it did, my mom and her friends said it was "baby fat," even when I was too old for it to be baby fat. I knew it wasn't baby fat from the beginning.

I feel like my body is ruined. I mean, it still works, but my skin is stretched with my fatness, and losing weight will not cause it to retract to normal status. I have stretch marks. Fat makes you look older.

I just read an article about celebrity sites in B**** magazine. It pointed out that these sites are almost exclusively focused on female celebrities (which I've noticed) and they judge them on their looks, even moreso than men. Many comment on if a female star is too fat or too skinny, often quite rudely. Our society tells women their worth is in their looks. Teen girls can buy shirts that are sexist or make them sexual objects. Abercrombie & Fitch removed a shirt from their sales that said, "Who needs brains when I have these?" because of customers being upset. Another shirt you can buy says, "I [skull-and-crossbones poison symbol to mean 'hate'] Math," which sounds kind of innocent, but it's aimed at girls, and implies girls are bad at math. There's also a shirt that says, "Your boyfriend is looking at me," which is catty. The point is, shirts like these reinforce teen girls' (and boys') message that only "hot" girls matter and girls should be in competition with each other.