(((((((((KatesShadow)))))))))

The easy way is denial. Your father defensiveness proves he is guilty. If he wasn't guilty, then he'd help you by getting you counseling. I'm sorry you lost support from your grandmother.

One way I know certain abuse events happened to me is by examining the details. For instance, I remember dialog my abuser said to me during abuse that didn't make sense to me when I was a child. But as the memory surfaced, looking back with adult perspective, I know he said and did those horrible things to me because I understand the adult language.

I wish I could go back to the easy path of denying the abuse. But I can't. I am who I am because of my past experiences. To "know thyself" requires honesty with self.

I pray you find serenity in your journey of self-discovery.