Well, I am fat. My husband tells me I'm sexy. I was not thin when I met him. I'd already had one child. And I've also got that mother's apron thing going on thanks to 2 c-sections (which I hate that more than the fat, actually.) He does tell me my tummy isn't sexy but the other (more important) parts of me are, and he is aware that I've had 3 kids...

Despite this, I'm still self-concious about it.

So I say it just depends on the person who is looking at you.