Several years ago I read a book that described "good enough" parenting. The author acknowledged that all parents are imperfect and make mistakes but the child doesn't need "perfect" parents in order to be okay. You are doing the best you can to meet your child's emotional needs at this age and at different ages the child will have different needs. For me and my son the most difficult time was from age fourteen to eighteen but my son was exposed to domestic violence from age nine to eleven so that probably was a factor. It certainly affected me and still does. Fortunately my son seems mostly well adjusted now that he is a young adult but he does need more support than most children do at his age.