I am sorry that he had so many people leave him, but you are allowing yourself to be a Codependant here, and that is not going to help him.

I can't blame you for venting, but to be honest, I really think you need people to give you permission to take care of yourself and get away from this very disfunctional man.
You cannot "fix" him, nothing YOU do or SAY is going to "fix" him. That is what your rant is all about here. He is the only one that can "fix" his problem and you giving into him is not going to help him do that. By staying with him, all you are really doing is giving him someone to victimize and control. He is NOT a partner to you at all, he is not interested in that, he only needs a partner to victimize and control. So that is what you are a "partner in" and you ARE the victim.

Open Eyes