((( wisewoman my friend )))

Can you have a "conversation" with your daughter about this? What would she say?

I struggle with similar issues because I no longer live in New England and I've abandoned the dead as well. But I also know if I had ten minutes to sit and talk with them about it, I KNOW in my heart of hearts they would say "Petunia, the thought is sweet and loving but go live your life hon. We're all fine."

I think I hold on to the "cemetery issue" because that's one finality I don't want to let go of. Grief keeps me connected to them all. Sometimes it's all I have left.