i'm sorry, W.W. that is a very hard pain to deal with. i am feeling that your T didn't truly realize how you were feeling when you talked to her.

and, something else to remember is that people deal with cemeteries, burial, cremation, etc. differently. almost everyone that i know has a different opinion about those subjects. i'm with you on it. i truly understand your feelings about having her nearby, but her spirit is with you.

i also agree with Pet. my daddy would say, "shorty, i'm here where i want to be and you just go on and i'm just fine"......

seriously, please do consider that your T may have been talking from her culturized feelings and not from her heart/head T part. love, pat