I would look at how often you choose to communicate the message 'I get everything wrong' to others. Is this something that you are regularly relaying to people around you? Do you convey this message in a number of different ways?

Should you discover that you are consistently giving over this message then you will most likely have a way forwards, as the role of 'the failure' is perhaps the game you play in order to find your place amongst others. We all have our games and identifying them and the desired reaction from those around us is fundamental to change. How is it you want others to react? How else could you ask them for what you feel you need.