Perna! I've been wanting to respond to this all day - but I got caught up with watching Grey's Anatomy and working out what the hell I'm thinking. So now I'm thinking about Owen and Cristina's relationship, that they got married too soon (we probably moved in too soon ><) and he ... er, left her for a while (my boyfriend and I are currently "taking space", which was indeed my idea, but which is really... er, it sucks) and wants to, later, change her (which is a theme with us) and now I'm kind of in that zone where the Soap Opera Is My Life. *ahem* XD

But thank you so much for replying. Your reply left me thoughtful and I'm feeling a lot more clear about what my head is telling me. I like how you said "getting the formula wrong" - that helped put that into perspective too. And really, really interesting about mobsters.

Thank you! Many many hugs.