Just wanted to add that one book, website and information that has helped me on and off is -

Becoming the parent you want to be by Laura Davis and Janis Keyser. Yes this Laura Davis is the same author of The courage to Heal Workbook and textbook among others. In becoming a parent she talks about her experiences with raising her children and learning to be the best parent she could be for them.

http://www.becomingtheparent.com/all/hp.html