Thanks Petunia.
I remember reading your story... it was really powerful. When my printer decides to start working again (it has gone on strike, along with the computer at times lol) I will print all this out so I can keep returning to it. Today she hasn't asked me about her brother at all, altho she came close to the subject. I have to say that I am very open with her, and not afraid to talk with her about any aspect of it; it is just that she doesn't have the capacity to understand these concepts not only because of her age but also because of her brain injury. She was involved in every part of her brother's funeral, and got to cuddle him several times before we said goodbye. I am grateful for all the advice I have been given here as I know that bit by bit I will be able to put it all to good use. I know for myself I am not 'afraid' of death... I have unfortunately never been to a wedding but I have been to about 10-20 funerals that I can remember. I just hope that my daughters do not have to see so many ppl close to them pass in such a short time as I have.