Like stopdog, I'm curious about what YOU would ask your T, if you could ask anything you wanted, Granite. If you knew beyond any doubt nothing bad were doing to happen, which question would you ask?

Personally, I have told my therapist that I love him although not in a romantic way. When I was really freaked out that I had sexual thoughts about him, I discussed that with him, but in a kind of generic way -- no specifics. I'm much more comfortable with 'I love you' than I am discussing sexual feelings for him. I tell my friends (both male and female) I love them, so it seems much more akin to that.