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you KNOW there's a problem when you read such words as ALL ALWAYS NEVER JUST ...

and imnoho giving too much creedence to the past is part of what makes us miserable...it's learning how to unload the past... being able to break free from it ... but IMO we are much more than what the past made us.

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unlearning what we learned as children - which is something we had no control over and no real understanding of.

It's the fact that many of us learn to think and react as we do that makes me so adamant that we do NOT choose to have these problems.

We are part and parcel of our enviroments: which is the sum total of what we have experienced and continue to experience. If we grew up never locking our doors or windows it would be very difficult for us to then adjust to living somewhere in which you must lock your doors and windows. Being robbed wouldn't be a choice you made but an unfortunate result of your enviroment (your life experiences). This is a bit of a weak example but it's all I could pull off the top of my head that wouldn't be triggerish.