Don't think it's about being a good/bad thing it's about the reasoning behind it. If its in the hope that what wasn't got before being gotten this time can lead to it being unhealthy and unproductive. If the T allows the relationship to continue on and off like this it isn't in the clients interest. The client or nightsky in this instance isn't at fault here. It's about a therapist that from what has been written here unable to resolve the clients issues. The client will go back if allowed if the issues are still alive within him/her.

Nightsky is the only one that knows what the real reason for calling was. But sometimes a client in this situation is so locked into the dynamic that they can't see the wood for the trees and I hope the T does the right thing and doesn't dance around it.

Sorry nightsky I do realise this is probetbly another thread that will become painful for you. But there are serious issues here I feel. And i really do hope you find a more able therapist.