imo if you are looking for a relationship I personally wouldnt be interested in one where i was that worried about my looks... or i would wait until i was in good shape again. or at least the best shape i could be in under the circumstances. i wouldnt enter into a relationship when i wasnt feeling good about myself. usually people that do wind up settling.

all of this coming from someone that doesnt have sex for the sake of sex and i wait a LONG time before having sex AND i wouldnt have sex with someone occasionally over decades. not happening.